Elsabe Smit

About Relationships: Let's Not Argue About Custody

I want to leave my marriage. Will my husband allow me access to the children when I leave him? This is a challenging situation because it goes against the norm. People would expect a woman to leave her marriage and by default take the children with her. However, let us not look for right or wrong and be the judge of a situation that we are not part of. The... (posted by Elsabe 110 days 3 hours ago.)

Letting Go of a Relationship

Why is it that we hold on to relationships long past their natural end? Think of a friendship that no longer exists. Do you still remember how your friend insulted or deserted you? You gained new friends, but you still feel that hurt. Remember that supervisor who made your life such hell that you left to get a new job? You smile every time you think what a sad sod that supervisor is, and... (posted by Elsabe 1 year 262 days ago.)

Are you doing Job's job?

Here is an interesting piece of information: I looked up the meaning of the word "job" in the dictionary. The meanings included "task, chore, difficulty, problem, trouble, hard time". This reminded me of a biblical figure called Job, whose name means "persecuted, afflicted, adversity". Is there some message in there? I wonder. Have you been made redundant recently? It is interesting how such an experience impacts not only on you... (posted by Elsabe 2 years 56 days ago.)

Let's Play Soldiers

I have been bothered about the fuss over the deaths of soldiers in Iraq and Afghanistan for a long time, but could not quite put my finger on the reason for feeling bothered about it. Was my concern about the fact that people died? Not really. People die, and that is a law of nature. People choose to die in many different ways, and that is destiny. Was my concern about soldiers dying in a war? No. This was more sadness about... (posted by Elsabe 2 years 167 days ago.)

Bigamy Does Not Undermine the Institution of Marriage

I can feel just this heading is enough cause for me to duck some eggs, oranges and other missiles, but your actions would be uninformed, so let's have a truce while I state my case. A woman was recently sentenced to ten months in prison, suspended for two years, for "marrying" four men while she was still married to her first husband. She was cautioned by police for two of these illegal marriages... (posted by Elsabe 2 years 186 days ago.)

Should Criminals Be Shown Mercy?

Should murderers and rapists be shown mercy? Should people who commit lesser sins or crimes be shown mercy? Or should people simply be punished for their crimes and be kept away from the victims? We often read in the media about victims of crime or their families that refuse to even think about forgiving the criminals. When a Scottish backpacker was murdered, a relative was quoted as saying that " she will never... (posted by Elsabe 2 years 194 days ago.)